“Feelings are not supposed to be logical. Dangerous is the man who has rationalized his emotions.”
- "I'm sorry." The universal phrase for forgiveness. It's so easy to say it, to use your mouth to send out those words to the people we owe the apology to. It's amazing at how many "I'm sorry's" are given out in a daily basis; do we know how many people mean it, though? We are uncertain. Sorry is a word that can have various meanings depending in the context we use it on. For example: "I'm sorry I spilled your coffee, let me buy you a new one." "I'm sorry I hit your car backing out from the parking lot." "I'm sorry, but this is not working between us, I'm filing for divorce." "I'm sorry, but the sad news is that you have cancer." Saying sorry is also circumstantial. It depends on the situation that we are in with one another. One has to take into consideration what the other person is going through in that situation, or how he or she was affected. Sometimes we just like to throw the words "I'm sorry" without really thinking about it. The meaning of the word hasn't changed, it requests the person who is receiving the message that he or she must forgive the one sending out the message. It's asking for a second chance, an option to start over. It's asking for something in return. Do we think about this when we say we are sorry? There are other alternatives to this, instead we could say: "Forgive me, I spilled your coffee on accident. I'll get you another one." "Forgive me, but I hit your car while I was backing out from my parking space, I wanted to let you know." "Forgive me, but I no longer can live with you like this, I spoke to the lawyer." "Forgive me, it is very sad to deliver this news to you, but I'm afraid you have cancer." So you see, there are alternatives to saying sorry, to emphasize that we do care or we do want the other person to be comfortable with the apology we throw at them. Saying sorry might not mean much to someone that you are not familiar with, unlike your family, or perhaps it could work the other way around and it seems to your family that you've exhausted your apologies. Forgiveness is hard when you are on the end of the plea, however, it is much harder to ask than it is to give.